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His parents don't like me
Dear Massi, I met someone from work and we got on straight away.
Things moved on and now we are now deeply in love with one another. He not a Muslim however and is white.
Strangely after the initial shock my parents have become more and more forthcoming. I was not expecting them to be so understanding. Even my fiance was very surprised because my mum wears a veil.
But he was so shocked when they welcomed him into the family.
It brings a tear to my eye just thinking about the moment my parents met him for the first time.
My fiance says he is considering becoming a Muslim but at the moment he has not made his mind up. He is studying the religion and has been doing so for some time.
The main problem we are having is his parents. At first they were very forthcoming and met me but as soon as he told them he wanted to marry me they became very angry.
They won't even see me anymore. I think they are embarrassed of me. This is causing so much worry for my fiance.
I feel so guilty about having put him through this and am considering ending our relationship because I don't want to break a family up.
He says he loves me and will do anything to stay with me.
What can we do?
GHL
Massy says, It is a such a good feeling when you have found someone you can share your life with.
And now you are prepared to let it all go? Who cares what colour he is? If your parents can see beyond his colour it is shame that his parents cannot.
It is difficult not to feel guilty when such a situation arises but I think over time things will change.
I am sure that when his parents realise that you both love each other and that their prejudices are only making things worse they may grow up.
Maybe they just need some time to get used to the idea.
Talk to him and tell him how you feel and I'm sure he will be equally supportive. But breaking up this realtionship might cause more problems than solutions.
And for the first time in a long-time it was wonderful to hear how your parents welcomed him into the family.
10:01am Wednesday 23rd April 2008
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CommentPosted by: Wassup, Bolton on 2:35pm Fri 25 Apr 08
When dont you leave him and come to me baby.
When dont you leave him and come to me baby.
Posted by: aj, sheffield on 1:30pm Fri 2 May 08
Put yourself in his shoes, what would you do. if his family is not happy then that is thier loss.
Put yourself in his shoes, what would you do. if his family is not happy then that is thier loss.
Posted by: Kasim, Much Hoole on 4:50pm Thu 8 May 08
You said "...because my mum wears a veil..". Doesn't that speak volumes for your mother who won't show her face to any other man outside the house. You should look into the reasons why she wears the veil - it is to prevent the mess you've ended up in. I apologise for sounding somewhat judgemental, but you should learn a lesson or two about modesty. As for your boyfriend, if he loves you enough he will revert to Islam and also will leave his family.
You said "...because my mum wears a veil..". Doesn't that speak volumes for your mother who won't show her face to any other man outside the house. You should look into the reasons why she wears the veil - it is to prevent the mess you've ended up in. I apologise for sounding somewhat judgemental, but you should learn a lesson or two about modesty. As for your boyfriend, if he loves you enough he will revert to Islam and also will leave his family.
Posted by: passionfruitkermi, glos on 12:12pm Wed 21 May 08
[quote][bold]aj[/bold] wrote:
Put yourself in his shoes, what would you do. if his family is not happy then that is thier loss. [/quote] is this slapstick???
aj wrote:
Put yourself in his shoes, what would you do. if his family is not happy then that is thier loss.
is this slapstick???
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